The cartoons were definitely much cooler when I was a kid
"Can I Touch Your Hair?" →
Whether it is straightened, put in a weave, placed under a wig, secured in braids, or rocked in a ‘fro, black women’s hair is often a point of curiosity, puzzlement and judgement. Now, when we find ourselves perplexed, we may reach out to touch that which we do not understand. However, should this be seen as an ‘invasion’ and a means of objectification OR should we view it as a simple act of human child-like curiosity?
In this fiery piece, Tele Ogunyemi tells us what the question, ‘Can I Touch Your Hair?’ means to her.
"Consensual penis enveloping is not humiliating, violating, or debasing to the vagina owner by its nature. It does not take anything away from the vagina owner. It’s just an idea which says this. ‘Penetration’ is the word which describes the idea."
The Cure For My Virginity →
By its simplest dictionary definition, ‘Virginity’ is ‘the state of a person who has never engaged in sexual intercourse’. Many cultural and religious traditions place special value on the significance of this ‘state’, viewing it as sacred, and spiritual. Particularly in the case of women, virginity is associated with notions of personal ‘purity’, ‘honour’, and ‘worth’, and even for those who add no spiritual value to it, virginity is viewed as a thing that is lost when one finally engages in (heterosexual) intercourse. But what is the real significance of viewing virginity in this way? As it does not exist as a biological ‘part’, should virginity as a concept exist in the first place? In this post, Emma-Rose Cornwall challenges the very idea of virginity being a thing at all and explains why, in fact, the idea of it is another tool in the imbalance of power between the sexes.